30 second Timeout
My coaching experiences along with my experiences playing high school, college, and professional sports have given me a unique perspective on youth/high school sports. As the athletic director, I want to communicate, advise and explore the challenges that parents face today when dealing with their children participating in athletics. My hope is that “30 second timeout” is a valuable resource that will enhance your experience and your child’s experience in educational athletics.
Why the name 30 second timeout? I am a former assistant basketball coach, and when things started to unravel on the court, our head coach would call a “30 second timeout” to regain our focus. Whether you are a parent of a child in little league, club soccer, or a high school varsity athlete, there will be times when you need to take a “30 second timeout” to regain your focus. We have all witnessed the parent in the stands who yells at the officials or yells at their own kid when they make a mistake. How about the parent who coaches from the sidelines? Do they live through their child’s athletic accomplishments or failures? Are they worried about whether they make a team or whether they will get an athletic scholarship? Every one of us, including myself, will answer yes to some of these questions. Some of us may be the person I am describing. This commentary will hopefully provide insight and awareness to deal with all of these questions and much more.
As we move forward on tackling this sensitive but real issue, I would like to lay a foundation on what the expectations are for every parent who has a child, young or old, that participates in athletics. I would like to call this the Scripps Ranch Parent Athletic Creed.
Scripps Ranch Parent Athletic Creed
1. Parents will understand their role. Parents parent, players play, officials officiate, and coaches coach. If you want your child to play at their highest level then make sure they listen to their coach. Mixed messages from you will only cause confusion and a decrease in performance level.
2. Parents will support and encourage their child, teammates, and coaches no matter the outcome. If you want to build a solid relationship with your son/daughter them tell them after the game, win or lose, that you are proud of them and to keep listening to their coach.
3. Parents will act with the highest class possible in all situations. This means no yelling at officials, players, or coaches. You may not realize this but it embarrasses your kid. Every athletic event should be a positive experience for the parents, players and coaches.
4. Parents will allow their children to face adversity. Athletic seasons are long and unpredictable. There will be good days and there will be bad days. Your son/daughter will never play enough nor will they be happy every second. Support them but do not solve their problems. Let them face adversity. Perseverance is one of the greatest attributes sports can teach athletes.
The vision set forth for Scripps Ranch athletics is expecting nothing but the best from our athletes, coaches and parents in the arena and outside the arena. Parents play an incredible role in creating that culture of excellence by the actions they display in the stands, on the car ride home, and at the dinner table. Take a moment to remind yourself of the Scripps Ranch athletic creed during those “30 second timeout.” Please join me on this crazy, sometimes frustrating, but extremely rewarding journey we are all embarking on together. See you at the games.